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Mary Leggewie
(of Homeschool Christian.com) Our dear heavenly Father, thank you for bringing
us together tonight. Please guide Barb tonight as she shares from her heart
about homeschooling. Be with our audience tonight guide them in their choices
raising Your children. Amen!
Mary Barb Shelton is homeschool pioneer who, with her husband, Dave (of
25 years as of last summer) has been homeschooling in Longview, Washington for
18 years. Their three children are Sharnessa, 23; Tory (male), 22 (both of whom
got married a week apart last August!); and Carlianne, 14. (You may have heard
of Sharnessa who is part of the Christian pop band, V*Enna.)
Barb has been teaching homeschool seminars around Washington State since 1984,
and in 1994 "went national" and now speaks around the country.
She offers a homeschool course called a "Season of Re-education and Renewing
of the Mind" which is done entirely at home by correspondence. (Her course
is one option homeschoolers have for "qualifying" to homeschool under
Washington State's Homeschool Law.)
Barb speaks and writes for burning-out as well as wanna-be homeschoolers wanting
to recover from or avoid the pitfalls of listening to the (many loud) voices
of the world, and hear the voice of the Lord for their own children.
Barb's workshops and books, including Senior High: A Home-Designed Form+U+la,
The Homeschool Guide-a-log and the Jumpstart Navigator for Younger
Children, are sprinkled with humor, girded with scriptural truth, and loaded
with practical forms, ideas, and encouragement.
Thanks for joining us tonight, Barb. You were a real inspiration when I first
went on-line hunting for homeschooling information. Thanks for fitting us in
to your busy life!
Barb My pleasure, Mary! :-) I'm glad to be here!
Mary You're one of those "veteran" homeschool moms! Did you
know any other homeschoolers when you began?
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Only two other families in our town. The only homeschool leader I knew of
was Dr. Raymond Moore (Home Grown Kids; Better Late Than Early,
etc.), but he and his wife weren't homeschooling! However, they possessed
much wisdom, gained from research, common sense, and having raised children
with much wisdom themselves, and they *were* responsible for totally turning
my life around! Mary What would you consider some of your biggest challenges along the way? Barb Probably my own weaknesses. :-) It's hard for me to stay focused, especially with so many demands for/on my time. But also we went through some very rough times in our marriage several years ago. God has done a GOOD work in both of us, and we were even asked (by our pastor) to share "our story" at our church's marriage retreat last weekend! You *can* go through hard times and still live to tell about it ~ IF God is allowed to have His way! He is a REDEEMING God, and "REDEEMED" is the theme of my life! |
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One *other* big challenge was that we not only had NO support, but since it
was 18 years ago, NO one had even *heard* of homeschooling! "You're WHAT?!?
What's that?" Our parents did *not* approve of what we were doing. Nor
did they think I was capable of doing it. I was fortunate enough to not have
parents who were verbal about it (at all), but their icy silence was almost
as bad! Dave's mom started asking questions and became supportive early on,
but it wasn't until 8 years into homeschooling that my parents came around!
And it was because of the poise and confidence he saw developing in our oldest
daughter, Sharnessa! It was a LONG eight years! The *biggest* challenge, though,
was my own thinking about what "education" was!
Mary
Wow, 8 years is a LONG time, you're right!
Mary Looking back now that you've completed your own homeschooling journey,
is there anything you would have done differently?
Barb Yes!!! I would have gotten a hold of Marilyn Howshall's Lifestyle
of Learning materials before I started doing ANYthing! However, they weren't
even written until we had been homeschooling for 10 years! That would have totally
changed many things.
I had NO idea of what God's idea of education was when first starting out. In
fact, it took me many years to figure it out. When I first started homeschooling,
there was a grand total of TWO books for us! (parents) I have found that it
is *vital* to know what education is really about before trying to do it with
and for our kids! Many would avoid burnout and bad fruit in their children and
homes if only they had understood God's idea of education ~ right from Day 1.
When we're first starting out, we don't realize this. Our minds are still "unrenewed"
in this vast arena of education ~ which is only natural considering we're immersed
in our culture's idea of "education," and we just want to get the
right and best curriculum!
Our society is steeped in the public school system, so we naturally see that
as being "the norm" and even "the best." Yet that system
is not producing the desired fruit in our children. Even so, new homeschoolers
rush out to buy hundreds of dollars worth of curriculum, (we didn't; we didn't
have the money!), start funneling that down their kids' heads, and within
a year or two ~ sometimes it takes just a few weeks or months ~ burn out! Or
experience continual contention with their kids.
There's still a place for prepared curriculum, but, like TV dinners ~ which
are very handy, and all set up for you ~ there are no decisions to make other
than which one(s) to get. A steady diet of this is not the "healthiest"
option. Once I figured that out, (which was largely due to the influence of
Marilyn Howshall's writings), I walked in MUCH greater freedom and purpose!
Her materials are not "how-to's"; they are foundational, and give
you a much deeper understanding of the learning process and how to apply principles
to your own unique child(ren).
Mary Your article, "Refreshing and Re-Focusing the Heart of the Homeschooler," one of your wonderful articles on your Web site, isn't
exactly what most folks would expect, is it? That article should be coming up
on top frame shortly.
Barb No, it isn't. :-) Most people think that the reason they're
experiencing frustration or burn-out is because they just don't have the right
curriculum; or enough discipline ~ with themselves or their kids. What they
*need* is a new FOCUS! ~ a new VISION! (That's what I help them get!)
Mary I've always found it sad when folks rush in from the conference
hall to immediately buy the latest speaker's book as if it will be the cure-all!
Barb Right! Only their relationship with God ~ and hearing from Him ~
will be that! :-)
Mary Amen!
Barb However, I must add that if you have just heard ME speak, it's OK to rush to MY booth and buy everything we sell. ;-D

Mary What can we do to help get the word out that Christian children
should not be in government schools?
Barb May I first comment on your use of the term "government schools?"
Mary Why certainly, Barb, I'm glad you brought that up!
Barb The term "government schools" is actually very accurate, even though most people don't think of it that way, or use the term. The term "public" actually means that the people are free to use the "public" institution, whatever it may be, as they wish. This means they are free to use it... or NOT use it. So in reality our "public libraries" are truly *public* libraries. If I choose to use their services, great; if I choose to not step foot into a public library for 10 years, no problem. Now, if I choose to not step foot ~ or rather my children's foot ~ into a "public school" for even say 3 days, what will happen? Ahhh! THAT is an entirely different matter! My child will be called "truant" and if I do not hightail my child's little foot into their "public school" in short order, I will be FINED hundreds of dollars! (Now I'm not talking about a situation where I have formally withdrawn my child to homeschool; I'm just talking about "John Smith" who lives in this school district.) The moment a law is made *requiring* children's feet to be planted on a public schoolroom floor, that institution is no longer "public"; it has now become a *government* institution.
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Mary THAT is a GREAT explanation! If we could get that explanation out to more people, maybe they'd realize what they've been drawn into. It reminds me of the story of the frog in boiling water--you can slowly bring him to a boil and kill him, whereas if you dropped him into boiling water, he'd jump out. Government schools ARE the pot of boiling water. Barb Well back to your question about getting word out that children should not be in government schools... I tend to work more on an "as the Lord opens the door" basis than on an assertive basis. I see myself as a pawn in God's hand, and I ask Him to move me in and out of the "chess boards" of people's lives as He sees fit. He has each one on a course, and is taking each of us through our own unique process, as each one of us, and each of our lives, are unique. |
At the ministry level, one of the books in my homeschool course (for parents)
is The Great Escape. On a more personal basis, I have personally
found that He most often brings people to me rather than me going out to look
for them. :-) What I have at my Web site is what I want to say to people in
the government schools, *and* in many other situations, (like burning out on
homeschool, rebellious kids, etc.) Many have told me they have sent friends
to my website.
But I think it works
best to be an example, and then watch and see what God is doing in their lives,
and allow Him to use you to speak to them as He opens the door. I know that's
pretty vague, but that's a good question and the response to it could really
be a whole article in itself! :-)
Mary The Internet is indeed powerful! That's how I first found your helpful
posts 5 years ago! I'm amazed at the recent increase in e-mail because of our
Homeschool Christian Web site with all the media attention government schools
are getting!
Barb Yes!
Mary People, especially Christians are finally waking up and realizing
that they can't have the kids in government school!
Barb
Right! Not if they want the values they are trying to impart to and build into
their children to *stick*!
Mary What about sending children to Christian schools?
Barb I personally don't feel that Christian schools are much better than
public/government schools in that they are still operating under the same *system.*
The values of the curriculum are better, of course, and that's a plus. But the
kids are still confined to the classroom.
I LOVE what John Taylor Gatto said about this! I quote: "I've come
to believe that genius is an exceedingly common human quality, probably natural
to most of us."
[From Barb: I have yet to meet a parent who doesn't think their tiny tot is "unusually bright"!]
[Back to quoting Mr. Gatto] "I began to wonder, reluctantly, whether it was possible that being in school itself was what was dumbing them down. Was it possible I had been hired not to enlarge children's power, but to diminish it? That seemed crazy on the face of it, but slowly I began to realize that the bells and the confinement, the crazy sequences, the age-segregation, the lack of privacy, the constant surveillance, and all the rest of the national curriculum of schooling were designed exactly as if someone had set out to *prevent* children from learning how to think and act, to coax them into addiction and dependent behavior."
And here's one more quote from Mr. Gatto that I love: "We need to realize that the school institution 'schools' very well, though it does not educate; that's inherent in the design of the thing. It's not the fault of bad teachers or too little money spent. It's just impossible for education and schooling ever to be the same thing."
[Back to Barb now]
This is just as true for *any* kind of traditional school, public or private.
And if we bring this system into our home and merely do "school at home,"
we are falling into the same trap! I have an article on this at my website
called What About Christian Schools?
Mary I saw a quote
recently that caught my eye... "It takes 13 years to school a child because
that's how long it takes to crush their spirit." (loosely recalled here!)
Barb Wow!
Mary Isn't that a scary one?
Barb I'm sad to say it's true, too!
Mary
We have several moms here who are on our Main
Homeschool Message Board at Homeschool Christian.com and they are wondering how they can convince their husbands
that they should homeschool.
Barb Well, I may get a few rotten tomatoes for this, ;-D
but I think that there are some wrong ideas about submission out there.
:-) I have heard many moms say exactly what you have asked about, that
they want to homeschool, but their husband wants to send them to public (which
equals government) school and therefore they have to submit. No questions asked
or objections stated. After all, that wouldn't be godly submissiveness!
;-)
If, after much prayer and discussion ~ *not* belittling and arguing ~ the husband
*still* wants that, I *might* go along with it, but my convictions about government
schools are pretty strong, so there would be a very in-depth process we'd go
through before I could even think about doing that! ;-)
I want to ask those wives, who would so quickly submit to such a request (demand)
this question: Let's say your husband told you he wanted you to get rid of all
fresh fruit and whole grains in your house and everyone was to start eating
only candy and sugar cereals? And ONLY these things! Would you just quietly
submit? I hope not! :-) And I don't mean to rebel or be domineering
or nasty about it either!
I would hope you have such a relationship with your husband that you'd be able
to *talk* with him, read some things out of a favorite health book to him that
would gently open his eyes to the *truth* about food. :-)
Mary Oh Barb, I LOVE that analogy!
Barb Well, I feel the same way, only about a thousand times stronger
about the "unhealthiness" of the government schools! And the unhealthy
"brain food" being fed there regularly is going to affect our kids
MUCH more deeply and long-lastingly than mere food!
So to you dads who feel that government school is the best choice, or let's
open it up a bit more ~ if you feel that "school at home" is the best
way to homeschool, I'd like to humbly say this: Please be open to learning some
things about "true education." This will produce more good fruit in
your children than your current ideas of education could ever yield.
As the provider of your home, you probably don't have time for as in-depth of
a season of renewing your mind as she might, but what has worked well for many
couples is for the husband to listen tapes that the wife listens to also, and
knows would minister to her husband, or that she (or one of the kids) reads
to him on a tape so that he can listen to it traveling to and from work.
Also she can highlight things (in a certain color for him) as she reads, and
then they discuss these together. If both parents are *not* on the same page
in understanding, and in unity on how to approach the education of their children,
there will be disharmony, confusion, and unrest in the home, with Mom over-burdened
and perpetually frustrated with trying to pursue what she believes God is trying
to lead her into while her husband is playing "tug-of-war" and trying
to lead her in a different direction. And, as many of you know only too well,
it's NOT a game either! :-)
I'm not saying that dad's thoughts should not be regarded! Not at all!!! There's
*definitely* much in Dad's heart that God wants to impart to the wife AND children!
I'm only saying that if his wife is trying to tell him something, the husband
needs to have the humility and meekness of Jesus, be(come) teachable, and take
on the heart of a learner.
(I should note that sometimes these roles are reversed! I've talked with couples
where it was the husband who was getting renewed in his thinking, but his wife
didn't want to go with him out of Egypt!) (End of sermon; I don't see any tomatoes
on my screen! ;-D )
Mary From the looks of your answer, I'd say you also hear this concern
a lot!
Barb Mmm-hmmmmm. ;-)
Mary And after all, God will hold MOMS responsible for the way our children
are educated too!
Barb Yes.
Mary Bev on our message board has told us that her UPS driver is grilling
her on a regular basis about wanting his wife to homeschool! She doesn't want
to.
Mary How do you recommend Christian children learn about humanism?
Barb Simply go through the public school system for 13 years! No,
you didn't mean to just learn it, but to learn about it, right!?! ;-D
There are some excellent resources, including a book called Understanding
the Times. It comes in two versions, one for junior high (which is about
as early as I think kids need to be thinking about this) and also in a huge
600+ page book for high school and up.
I suggest taking more than just one year to go through this, even two or three
years. There are also some excellent ministries including Summit Ministries
(www.summit.org) which offers a two-week camp in the summer, and then Worldview
Academy (www.worldview.org) which also offers
camps around the country.
Tory attended a Summit conference a few years ago, in TN, and LOVED it; and
Carlianne and I just recently went to a Worldview Weekend and got to meet (and
hear) Jeff Baldwin who was actually the main writer of Understanding the
Times!
Mary I visited www.humanist.net today and it was a
REAL eye-opener! I recommend anyone who questions whether humanism is a religion
visit that site for their own definitions!
Mary There's also the Christian Worldview Student Conference coming up very soon. You might also be interested in the transcript of a conference we held with Rev. Byron Snapp about the conference.
Barb Good! :-)
Mary What about science? This intimidates a lot of parents into not homeschooling.
Can you tell us about your Lab Science book and what age/grade it's for?
Barb Yes, lab science *is* intimidating, and that's totally unnecessary,
especially with all the resources and helps available now!
My book, called Lab Science: The How, Why, What, Who 'n' Where Book,
is *not* a lab text book. It's for high school and junior high. I wrote it to
give the course planner a better understanding of and foundation in lab science,
its many purposes, the many different ways it can be done, how to do it without
just going the textbook route (and when that would and wouldn't be advisable),
and to give many options, insights from many experts, frameworks for several
different types of lab courses (not just biology and chemistry), and reproducible
forms for doing so.
One mom said "This book changed my mind from feeling the need to send my
daughter to a community college for Lab Science. We can just the this book and
figure out a good lab course on our own! We are both relieved and excited about
that!" :-)
I LOVE giving R-E-L-I-E-F!!! ;-) Here is a page with info on this
book.
Mary Sometimes folks just need to know it's OK to be nervous! I think
it's normal myself! It's nice that you're able to reassure so many!
Barb It's perfectly normal to be nervous, but the problem is that too
many STAY in the state of nervousness and then let it keep them from getting
all that God has for them! :-)
Mary What about taking college classes at a young age? What do you think
of this?
Barb I think it *can* work, but only if the parents have a VERY good
idea of where they're heading, and why, and have totally prepared their children
~ mentally, spiritually, and emotionally. I'm referring to classes taken off-campus.
I personally don't feel that even most college-age kids are ready for the secular
campus! (Taking college classes online is an entirely different matter.
With a parent nearby and (hopefully) overseeing the studies, the risks are much
more minimal ~ providing the parent has a good understanding of "worldview.")
Of course, what some are talking about is taking "dual enrollment" classes at a community college. That's another separate issue, yet with similar concerns. For more of my thoughts on this matter, read an article I wrote entitled "Are "Dual Enrollment" and "Running Start" Really Homeschool Options?"
Generally speaking, though, I feel my time with my kids is limited enough; their childhoods short enough; let's just let them take their time about growing up and be kids for as long as they can. :-) Adulthood will come soon enough. (TOO soon, in my opinion!) There are *many* areas to develop besides academics, and these just take TIME.
Mary
I know what you mean...the years are zooming by!
Mary Do you recommend "CLEPping" college courses. For those
not familiar with CLEP tests, these are tests taken that give the equivalent
of college credit without having to take (and pay for) the courses tested.
Barb I think it *can* be a great idea, and it *can* be awful. :-)
There are many issues involved in this, and many different situations and kids.
What's good for one is totally wrong for another. That's why we need to *first*
get our minds renewed about education, learn to hear God's voice, and *then*
ask such questions.
What's "right" for one child may be very different than what's right
for another of our own children! So there are no "right or wrong"
ways; only hearing God for each child, each step of the way. :-)

Mary What about college over the Internet? This seems to popping up quite
a bit now with places like Phoenix University.
Barb In the on-campus setting, parents need to be willing to go through
much of the material with the student to make sure the worldview is correct
~ which it often *isn't* (even with Christian colleges!) ~ so they need to help
their kids work through it. This is why I feel if younger kids are going to
take college classes, they need to be done at home. Otherwise you can't have
that input.
My focus is really
high school ~ and getting everything out of these years that God has for us
~ but I do think that internet classes can be used at the high school level
too. I personally feel that there should be a *variety* of learning methods,
and the more of the student's "real life" that's encompassed, the
better.
Mary Barb, we've got a lot of moms of young children on our Web site.
Can you tell us a bit more about the The Homeschool Jumpstart Navigator?
Barb I wrote it for parents whose children have been in "regular
school" or are burned-out on too much "school-at-home." These
kids need time to "decompress" while getting occupied in some healthy
"real-life learning"; they do NOT need a *different* pile of work
heaped on them! :-)
Once the child is all set academically (which this book helps you do), the book
also gives specific direction to get the parent going on a season of "re-education"
~ which will be very freeing and joy-producing for those who have been bound
up in traditional methods!
I have received hundreds of letters from exhilarated moms who are having a BALL
with their kids! They didn't know homeschooling could be so fun! :-)
This book shows you how to get started ~ and how simple it is ~ and gives lots
of practical learning tools to use with your children!
Mary Not all questions will be answered tonight, but Barb does have an
e-mail list you can check out on her Web site where you can join in the fun
and wisdom of many homeschooling parents.
Mary Barb, do you have any other books on the drawing board?
Barb I have one seminar on tape called "Real-life Homeschool Record
Keeping and
Organizing" that I'd like to get into book form. :-)
It has many forms for Mom, kids, jobs, homeschool, keepsake records, and samples
of each, and reproducible masters.
And there are several *articles* I'd like to get done! Most of these are listed
on my Article Chart.
Mary Do you offer your homeschool courses in person at all?
Barb Well, I need to differentiate between the different things I do...
:-) I offer a homeschool course, called a "Season of Re-education
and Renewing of the Mind," which is done entirely in your home, the only
contact with me being in book and tape form. Click here for an intro to this course...
It consists of reading books, articles, and booklets, and "journal-responding"
in a course syllabus I designed to help you think everything through for your
own family. When done, you can get a Certificate of Completion, if you desire.
OK, so that's my "course," and I *don't* do that in person.
;-) However, I *do* speak in person, upon invitation. I have
several workshops that I do at conventions, (click here,) and I also do my own one
or two-day seminars.
I am not soliciting speaking engagements during this season of my life, but
am open to doing them. I still have one daughter at home, Carlianne who's 14,
and with Sharnessa and Tory married and gone, it has hit me like a ton of bricks
how QUICKLY this time with our kids is GONE! ;-)
And I was even able to keep my kids with me longer than usual; Sharnessa until
she was 20 and Tory 21. I do speak here and there, but only as it is evident
to me *and* to the hostess that this is something God is leading.
Mary
Wow, you are one BUSY lady!
Barb If you might be interested in having me come and speak, check out
my About Barb Speaking page.

Rose {question presented} How do colleges feel towards homeschool?
Barb There's no one way they feel; it's on a very individual basis. Some
are actually recruiting homeschoolers; others are very biased against them.
Probably even the various staff people in any given college vary greatly in
their attitudes toward homeschoolers. We are still in the pioneering stages!
But my understanding is that the attitude is generally becoming more favorable.
The proof really is in the pudding, and homeschoolers generally excel in many
different ways!
Rose {question presented} Do you know of any good ways to get scholarships
for college or grants?
Barb Actually college, scholarships, grants and such things are not my
focus; my focus is on the heart of true education. Cafi Cohen has written much
on this that you would find very helpful.
Mary We interviewed Cafi Cohen a few months ago, and her transcript is
up on our Christian Education Symposium Page at http://www.HomeschoolChristian.com/ChristianEd/Cohen.html
tgal {question presented}
Don't you feel if the Lord wants our children at a particular college etc. that
the doors will be open or the hoops won't be too hard to manage?
Barb Yes! I feel that if we follow God's leading all through our homeschooling
years, He will open the ONE door that needs to open. I also feel our focus needs
to be *more* on preparing our children for LIFE and for their calling in life
than for (merely) college. For college, yes, if that's what God has for them.
But I think too many assume that college is for everyone. I believe God has
more creative (and less expensive) options than we have considered. :-)
tgal {question presented} If our kids don't have anything particular
they'd like to study - and the Lord hasn't put a particular on our hearts -
do you recommend doing the "basic" things that kids cover in regular
school - like English comp, algebra etc. I've been homeschooling 14 years, I
don't do school at home, I try using neat stuff, but sometimes the creative
juices are lacking.
Barb I think it's a good idea to try several things. I've heard the analogy
of putting a taste of many things on a child's palate. That's one way to find
out what they might be interested in that they hadn't thought of. There is an
article at my website by Gregg Harris called "Delight Directed Study" that would
be very helpful!! (There are two others on this topic too!)
Rose {question presented} DO you think its a good idea to get your GED
after you finish homeschool?
Barb I don't think there's anything particularly good or bad about
it ~ it just depends on the direction God is taking your child, and whether
or not that would be helpful to them. :-) It has had an unfavorable
"stigma" attached to it, but can be useful in certain situations.
Beverly {question presented} Do your children intend to homeschool your
grandchildren?
Barb Yes!!! My daughter-in-law (Tory's wife) was not homeschooled,
but she definitely wants to homeschool, and has a heart to learn! She asked
me a few weeks ago if she could come to my workshops with me! :-)
Mary Oh, that just warms your heart!
Barb:
Yes! I would have felt like I'd failed
somewhere had my kids not wanted to homeschool their kids. In fact, that's
why I created a class for them in high school that I called "Educational
Foundations"! (See page VI-D~27 of the latest edition of Form+U+la
~ which has been out for two years now. If it has pictures of my family on the
cover, it's the latest!)
Barb Sharnessa and Sam wants to homeschool their (someday) kids too! Her husband,
Sam, was public-schooled ~ in Sweden ~ and Sharnessa has already convinced him!
:-) That's going to be another whole season!!! ;-D One
I'm greatly looking forward to!
tgal {question presented} If our child doesn't know whether college is
in his future - should we still try to prepare by doing some of the "done
subjects" just in case the Lord leads in that way?
Barb Yes, but we can do them in more interesting ways than merely straight
text/workbooks. Many think that the best and only way to do a subject is with
a textbook. I just don't agree. For one thing, it is not related to the
child's real life and much of it just falls off their brains, like water over
Vaseline! :-) But additionally, there are MANY ways to teach almost
every subject withOUT a single textbook! I have MANY examples in my book, Senior
High: A Home-Designed Form+U+la! (See the forms at the bottom of my
High School Helps page! And this is
just an intro!)
Mary I have often said myself that you can homeschool with a library
card and a math text!
Barb Yes, Mary!!!
Barb One more thought...Sharnessa said, "I LOVED homeschooling!
Instead of being stuck in a classroom for 6 hours a day and then an added 1-3
hours of homework, I was able to focus on the areas I loved and was passionate
about! I mean, I still had to fill all the credits required by my mom, but we
got to fill them with such awesome, hands-on experiences! We went to seminars,
workshops, historical sites and museums all around Washington (state),
conferences, on field trips, watched videos, and more! ~ It was incredible!"
(Sharnessa is very enthusiastic!) (This is from a Letter of Encouragement from Sharnessa to a Reluctant Homeschooled
Boy.)
Mary
AMEN Sharnessa! Sounds like "the REAL world" to me,
Barb!
Barb It is, and I believe it's a much BETTER education than the prepared,
TV-dinner type of curriculum that so many feel constitute a *real* education!!!
Barb We tend to think we are being inferior if we aren't going with the
scope-and-sequence approved program!!! But I think THAT is the imitation!
We have the REAL THING!
| Jody
S {question presented} Any suggestions for handling the pressure from
others when you have a very athletic daughter who doesn't really think she
wants to go to college but everyone else thinks she should? (Not necessarily
us) Barb You need to come up with an answer ~ a gracious one, of course ~ that you AND your daughter feel comfortable giving. I don't know why people think they need to give their unsolicited opinions! But the more confident you are and the more graciously firm, the less freedom they will feel to pressure you. I HOPE! ;-D |
tgal {question presented} Are the examples of teaching without textbooks
in the old version of your book or just new one?
Barb The *philosophy* behind it is presented in the new and the old versions. A few examples are in the old, but there are MANY MANY more examples in the new version because I wrote that AFTER I had finished homeschooling two high schoolers; I wrote the first version from an "I plan to..." angle; the next edition had a few inserts into the old from an "I'm still in the process, but here's what I've learned" angle; the 1999 edition is from a "DID IT!" angle. ;-) (There is only ONE edition of the new one, by the way, so if it has pictures of our family on the cover, it's the latest.)
As for examples of real-life learning... In the new edition of the book I have examples for every class I could think of, and for many classes that I invented! :-) Like "Building Life Relationships" which is where we put all our talk about "courtship" and "Educational Foundations" which is where the kids learn the foundational stuff about true education. THEIR minds to be renewed as much as ours! :-)
I did produce two "Addendums" over the years for those with the old versions, but these are very sketchy and incomplete. A "drop in the bucket" of what's in the new version. I personally think the new one is well worth getting if you're going to still be high schooling for at least a year or more. Many ask me whether they should get the new version if they already have the old, so I put together an article called "New vs. Old Form+U+la" to help you decide. (Isn't that a *clever* title for such an article?!?)
tgal {question
presented} Do you call material produced by homeschool families, "textbooks"
if they cover a particular topic. Example: creative writing?
Barb I think of "textbooks" as what the curriculum companies
put out. I probably don't need to name names. And some ARE helpful for some
classes! But not a steady diet of them! :-) Three articles that
will shed more light on this are What About Prepared Curriculum? (by
me), The Need for Structure in the Learning Process (by Marilyn Howshall), and Delight Directed Learning. (by me)
Mary Barb, thank you so much for joining us tonight, and for your continued
input on our Parents of Homeschooling Teens Message Board!
Barb You're welcome! Thanks for inviting me, Mary! It's been a
pleasure!
Mary
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Mary
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